双语阅读——远距离的爱:5招教你异地恋如何保鲜

大肚子

你可曾在恋爱中束手无策，困惑迷茫，教你五招让你在异地恋中，无往而不利。
No.1 Video Chat Regularly

第一招：经常视频聊天

Whether you use Face Time, iChat, Google Chat, or Skype, being able to see each other while you talk about your annoying coworker or the hilarious thing your buddy did at the bar adds another layer of communication that helps you stay close. Video chatting is an especially good idea when you're arguing; your normal tension-dissolving tactics don't translate as well over the phone。

什么样的视频聊天工具都好，当你在抱怨惹人讨厌的同事或者分享好伙伴在酒吧里做过的一些非常滑稽的事情的时候，要能看到对方，这样能够带来不同感觉的聊天效果，帮助你们维系彼此间的亲密感。当你们在争论的时候，视频聊天是一个非常好的方式；电话聊天无法很好地传达和帮助消除紧张感。

No.2 Don't Be Jealous Of Her Guy Friends

第二招：不要嫉妒她的异性朋友

One of the few upsides to being in a long-distance relationship is that you're always free to hang out with friends. Your job as the boyfriend is to make sure she knows you're cool with that — even if her plans involve dudes you don't know. Trust me, it'll work to your advantage in the long-run: If you get defensive whenever she wants to spend time with a guy, she'll assume it's because you're not being faithful when you're around other women. But if you're cool with it, you automatically seem more trustworthy, preventing any major jealousy issues before they start。

远距离异地恋情中少有的一个好处是：可以很自由的与自己的朋友聚在一起。作为她的男友要做的，就是确保让她知道，关于这点你很放心，就算她会与一些你不认识的男生一起出门玩。相信我，长期坚持这样做对你们的关系是非常有利的：如果每次她说要跟异性朋友一起你就很有防备心，那久而久之，她就会怀疑是不是因为你和其他的女性一起的时候有做过对不起她的事情。但如果你放心她的话，会得到更多的信任，这些信任能够消除任何重大的猜疑与嫉妒。

No.3 Do Something Together While You're Apart

第三招：异地的时候也可以一起做些事

You don't have to be in the same zip code to have fun together. Every Sunday night at 11, my boyfriend and I have a standing date to talk about the latest episode of Breaking Bad. Your “thing” doesn't have to be a TV series you're addicted to — maybe it's watching a weekly movie together, or playing Words with Friends — but make sure you have something to talk about that doesn't involve the words “I miss you。” It'll make your phone calls a lot more pleasant。

你们不一定非得在同一个地区才能一起玩。每周六晚11点，我和男朋友会有一次固定的约会，一起聊聊《绝命毒师》的最新剧情。当然你们的“话题”不一定非得是你们热衷的电视剧，可以是在网上一起观看每周影院，或者是大家一起玩填字游戏，要知道的除了“我想你”这些甜言蜜语外，你们有其他的事情可以谈论，这些事情会让你们的电话聊天更愉快。

No.4 Plan At Least One Visit In Advance

第四招：至少提前安排一次会面

Maybe you're a spontaneous kind of guy. Don't be when you're booking travel. Things go much more smoothly if you have a trip or two in the books ahead of time. Your wallet will thank you — and so will your girlfriend. Saying goodbye at the end of a visit is a lot easier when you already have another to look forward to。

也许你是一个很随意的人，但在计划旅行的时候就千万要谨慎啦。如果你能提前安排一到两次旅行的话，事情会更顺畅。你的钱包也会感激你的，当然还有你的女朋友。如果你们已经计划好令人期待的下一次会面时，那么在这段旅途结束时说再见就会容易得多了。

No.5 Say What's On Your Mind

第五招：说出你心中的想法

Girlfriends can tell when something's bothering you. And when you don't explain what it is — no matter how dumb you might think it sounds — we assume we're the something that's bringing you down. A girlfriend who's worried that you might dump her isn't a great person to be in a relationship with. So just tell her that you missed the game-winning shot at your pickup basketball game already and put it behind you。

女朋友通常都能感觉到有事情烦扰着你，不论你多么的不想说话，如果你不去解释，我们就会以为是我们让你感到厌烦。作为女朋友会猜疑，担心你是不是要跟她分手。所以你要直接的告诉她，你是因为在之前的篮球赛错失了制胜球而心情烦闷。