你可曾在恋爱中束手无策,困惑迷茫,教你五招让你在异地恋中,无往而不利。
No.1 Video Chat Regularly
第一招:经常视频聊天
Whether you use Face Time, iChat, Google Chat, or Skype, being able to see each other while you talk about your annoying coworker or the hilarious thing your buddy did at the bar adds another layer of communication that helps you stay close. Video chatting is an especially good idea when you're arguing; your normal tension-dissolving tactics don't translate as well over the phone。
One of the few upsides to being in a long-distance relationship is that you're always free to hang out with friends. Your job as the boyfriend is to make sure she knows you're cool with that — even if her plans involve dudes you don't know. Trust me, it'll work to your advantage in the long-run: If you get defensive whenever she wants to spend time with a guy, she'll assume it's because you're not being faithful when you're around other women. But if you're cool with it, you automatically seem more trustworthy, preventing any major jealousy issues before they start。
You don't have to be in the same zip code to have fun together. Every Sunday night at 11, my boyfriend and I have a standing date to talk about the latest episode of Breaking Bad. Your “thing” doesn't have to be a TV series you're addicted to — maybe it's watching a weekly movie together, or playing Words with Friends — but make sure you have something to talk about that doesn't involve the words “I miss you。” It'll make your phone calls a lot more pleasant。
Maybe you're a spontaneous kind of guy. Don't be when you're booking travel. Things go much more smoothly if you have a trip or two in the books ahead of time. Your wallet will thank you — and so will your girlfriend. Saying goodbye at the end of a visit is a lot easier when you already have another to look forward to。
Girlfriends can tell when something's bothering you. And when you don't explain what it is — no matter how dumb you might think it sounds — we assume we're the something that's bringing you down. A girlfriend who's worried that you might dump her isn't a great person to be in a relationship with. So just tell her that you missed the game-winning shot at your pickup basketball game already and put it behind you。